For most of my dating life, I was in serious relationships. I had one boyfriend through most of high school and one through most of college, with a couple of shorter relationships thrown in between. I was never the type for blind dates or anything like that. . . I tended to date guys with whom I was already friends, and only those who I could imagine spending my life with. Shortly after my breakup with Nate, I resolved to change that. I wanted to date lots different people, and I decided that I would say yes when people asked me out even if I wasn't sure about them. I went on one date and had met a couple of people I was interested in, and then I saw Caradorn. I saw him across a room and asked a friend who he was, and found out he was the best friend of a guy I was considering going out with. Coincidentally, another girl liked both Caradorn and his friend Chuckie and was trying to choose between them. I was appalled by this (who tells a pair of best friends she's trying to choose between them?!), but once I saw Caradorn I wasn't too worried that she'd choose the guy I liked. Who would choose anyone else if Caradorn was one of the options?
Apparently that girl would, because she chose the other guy. I wasn't too upset about Chuckie being off the market, because I was still planning to keep things casual and date around and one of the factors in the girl's decision was that Chuckie had told her he was hoping for marriage soon. Caradorn had said he was not. A couple of weeks later I was juggling in a place where Caradorn was singing, and we discovered we got along really well. He was friends with two of my best friends and so the four of us started hanging out. One evening I cooked dinner for all of us and after our friends left, Caradorn stayed to help me clean up. We ended up talking for hours and by the time he left I realized that the casual dating thing wasn't going to happen after all. By our second date we were already talking about the future as though it was a foregone conclusion that we'd be together.
Jonathan Coulton wrote a song after his child was born. Every time I hear it, I think of Caradorn. I was happy before Caradorn and I started dating. I had all sorts of plans - most of which I changed after we fell in love. Now I can't imagine my life being any more perfect than it is right now.
You Ruined Everything
I was fine
Just in time
To throw myself away
Once my perfect world was gone I knew
You ruined everything
In the nicest way
You should know
How great things were before you
Even so
They're better still today
I can't think of who I was before
You ruined everything
In the nicest way
Bumps in the road remind us
The worst of the best behind us
Only good things will find us
Me and you
Days will be clear and sunny
We're gonna need more money
Baby you know it's funny
All those stories
Coming true
Despite my better efforts
It's all for you
The worst kind of cliche
I'll be with you till the day you leave
You ruined everything
In the nicest way
(Retrieved from http://www.jonathancoulton.com/wiki/index.php/You_Ruined_Everything/Lyrics)
No comments:
Post a Comment